I was a bit of a troublemaker (Yes, this perfect angel was a troublemaker in their younger days :O ) growing up, so I figured I could help them out.
Kids these days have a preconceived notion of entitlement. Sometimes its learned from society, sometimes from their upbringing.
I was brought up nomadically, with my dad, and therefore had few possessions when I was really young. Coming to live with my parents, I had my own room, my own bed, my own stuff.
I got a little self-entitled at some point.
My parents solution to the problem was a simple one.
When grounding and other punishments didn't work. Yelling and swatting didn't work. Extra chores, and limited activities didn't work. They did something drastic:
They took everything out of my room, minus my mattress and dresser. They left me with 5 pairs of jeans, 5 pairs of socks/underwear/undershirts, 4 button-up shirts, and a church shirt. Two pairs of shoes (sneakers and work boots) and a comb for my hair.
They took my door as well.
For every day I did my chores, homework, and didn't pitch an attitude, I got one item back.
For every time I went out of my way to be good, I could get another item back.
Every time I did something wrong (defiance, not doing chores, not doing homework, tantrum..... I could get as many as 5 things taken away that day)
My parents didn't add more chores to my list, because living on a small farm, I had plenty of them. And homework.
I resisted, and even got my bed taken away.... sleeping bags on a hardwood floor are quick motivators.
And it definitely made me more calculated in my decision making.
It took me 1 week to earn back my matress
It took me 2 weeks to get my bedframe back.
It took me a month to get my "nice" clothes back (the ones I preferred to wear to school)
It took me 4 months to get my door back.
I definitely had a greater appreciation for my privileges.